Stephanie's Marathon
This last week has been a very difficult time for our Team In Training family. Our hearts are aching over the loss of Stephanie Henkel to Lymphoma. It has made all of us stop, pause, and re-examine why it is we train and raise money to fight blood cancers. It has also caused us to examine our own lives and re-evaluate our priorities.
Many on our team had the privilege of only meeting Stephanie once or twice. We will remember her attending the Honored Hero BBQ at Andy Brown Park this year. She was weak and stayed in her wheelchair. But as she sat in the pavilion visiting with everyone her positive spirit was simply infectious. At one point Chris asked Stephanie if he could go get her a hot dog. "Yes", she said, "and make sure you put relish on it!" So Chris dutifully went to the other side of the pavilion, put a hot dog on a plate, and made sure it had relish on it. When he returned Stephanie jovially scoffed at him and said, "No, I need MORE relish than that!" Chris smiled, rolled his eyes and immediately went back to retrieve more relish for the hot dog. Stephanie leaned over to Jennifer Bowring sitting nearby and said, "I really didn't need more relish. I just like looking at THOSE LEGS!!!"
Last Saturday I was able to spend a few minutes with Chris Henkel as we ran together along the north side of Lake Grapevine. The topics of conversation varied. We talked about training and our kids, and of course we also discussed Stephanie's battle over the last year with Lymphoma. Chris said something that I will never forget. He said, "You know Philip, watching Stephanie go through this is like running a marathon. It is a very long, hard fight that we must endure." I readily agreed, "You are right. But when we run a marathon, we know how long it is to the finish line. We know we will run exactly 26 miles and 385 yards. But you and Stephanie don't know when the finish line will come. That has to be the difficult part." Chris soberly responded, "...or WHAT the finish line will be. That is the most difficult thing to think about."
In that moment it was obvious to both Chris and I that what we were doing was much more significant than simply putting one foot in front of the other and training for a race. We were doing more than just running marathons to raise money to fight blood cancers. For our team, running a marathon is not only an athletic event, it is a poignant metaphor for the lives of our Honored Heroes. Just like our Honored Heroes must endure, we too must endure.
There are two words we rarely use in the context of running a marathon..."Win" and "Lose". We don't talk in terms of "winning a marathon" or "losing a marathon". Instead, we use phrases like "FINISH a marathon" or "ENDURE a marathon". When we cross that final finish line we know that at least one other runner, and probably many, will have finished ahead of us. And there will likely be someone finish behind us. But who finishes ahead of us or behind us is all that important. The significance of running a marathon is in the journey itself, not just crossing the finish line. The important part of our journey is how it enriches our own lives as well as the lives of others. The significance of a marathon is not the finish line, it is the journey we take to get there.
As this week has gone by we keep hearing story after story about Stephanie and her life. We hear how she was a devoted wife to Chris and how she cared for her two children. We heard about what an incredible daughter and sister she was to her immediate family.
Our team was touched and encouraged week to week as Chris would tell us about Stephanie's up and down battle with her disease. We were all inspired as we watched Chris train for a marathon while juggling the tasks of taking care of his children, visiting Stephanie in the hospital, and holding down a full time job. And we will continue to be inspired by Chris as he runs the Nike Marathon, raises his children, and continues to be an ambassador for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. He will keep Stephanie's memory alive in how he lives his life. And as we train and run our events we will also keep Stephanie's spirit alive.
Stephanie's Marathon is complete. She has crossed the finish line. And my-oh-my...look at how the journey she took has touched and enriched the lives of others!
Read more!
Many on our team had the privilege of only meeting Stephanie once or twice. We will remember her attending the Honored Hero BBQ at Andy Brown Park this year. She was weak and stayed in her wheelchair. But as she sat in the pavilion visiting with everyone her positive spirit was simply infectious. At one point Chris asked Stephanie if he could go get her a hot dog. "Yes", she said, "and make sure you put relish on it!" So Chris dutifully went to the other side of the pavilion, put a hot dog on a plate, and made sure it had relish on it. When he returned Stephanie jovially scoffed at him and said, "No, I need MORE relish than that!" Chris smiled, rolled his eyes and immediately went back to retrieve more relish for the hot dog. Stephanie leaned over to Jennifer Bowring sitting nearby and said, "I really didn't need more relish. I just like looking at THOSE LEGS!!!"
Last Saturday I was able to spend a few minutes with Chris Henkel as we ran together along the north side of Lake Grapevine. The topics of conversation varied. We talked about training and our kids, and of course we also discussed Stephanie's battle over the last year with Lymphoma. Chris said something that I will never forget. He said, "You know Philip, watching Stephanie go through this is like running a marathon. It is a very long, hard fight that we must endure." I readily agreed, "You are right. But when we run a marathon, we know how long it is to the finish line. We know we will run exactly 26 miles and 385 yards. But you and Stephanie don't know when the finish line will come. That has to be the difficult part." Chris soberly responded, "...or WHAT the finish line will be. That is the most difficult thing to think about."
In that moment it was obvious to both Chris and I that what we were doing was much more significant than simply putting one foot in front of the other and training for a race. We were doing more than just running marathons to raise money to fight blood cancers. For our team, running a marathon is not only an athletic event, it is a poignant metaphor for the lives of our Honored Heroes. Just like our Honored Heroes must endure, we too must endure.
There are two words we rarely use in the context of running a marathon..."Win" and "Lose". We don't talk in terms of "winning a marathon" or "losing a marathon". Instead, we use phrases like "FINISH a marathon" or "ENDURE a marathon". When we cross that final finish line we know that at least one other runner, and probably many, will have finished ahead of us. And there will likely be someone finish behind us. But who finishes ahead of us or behind us is all that important. The significance of running a marathon is in the journey itself, not just crossing the finish line. The important part of our journey is how it enriches our own lives as well as the lives of others. The significance of a marathon is not the finish line, it is the journey we take to get there.
As this week has gone by we keep hearing story after story about Stephanie and her life. We hear how she was a devoted wife to Chris and how she cared for her two children. We heard about what an incredible daughter and sister she was to her immediate family.
Our team was touched and encouraged week to week as Chris would tell us about Stephanie's up and down battle with her disease. We were all inspired as we watched Chris train for a marathon while juggling the tasks of taking care of his children, visiting Stephanie in the hospital, and holding down a full time job. And we will continue to be inspired by Chris as he runs the Nike Marathon, raises his children, and continues to be an ambassador for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. He will keep Stephanie's memory alive in how he lives his life. And as we train and run our events we will also keep Stephanie's spirit alive.
Stephanie's Marathon is complete. She has crossed the finish line. And my-oh-my...look at how the journey she took has touched and enriched the lives of others!
Read more!
